03.07.2025

What you said as a leader vs what your actions show.

What you said as a leader vs what your actions…

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What you said as a leader vs what your actions show.
I'll bet you'll spot a mistake you made too.

➡︎ You said: “You can always come to me.”
⚠️Your actions show: “But only if it’s not uncomfortable.”

➡︎ You said: “We’re a family here.”
⚠️Your actions show: “So, we will brush your concerns under the carpet, families should always get along".

➡︎ You said: “Your feedback is valuable.”
⚠️Your actions show: “Unless it challenges our structure or senior team.”

➡︎ You said: “You’re one of our top performers.”
⚠️Your actions show: “So we’ll give you more to carry when others fail.”

These lines sound harmless.

Some even sound inspiring.

But in the HR case files I read-

in the exit interviews I conduct-

in the grievance investigations I lead...

it’s these very sentences that appear again and again.

Not because they’re outright unlawful.

But because they spark unlawful patterns.

And that's when the inconsistent, unfair and discriminatory behaviours start.

Discrimination isn’t always about slurs or policies.

Sometimes it’s a pattern of;

↳ selective listening
↳ inconsistent application
↳ or hidden power dynamics.

And that’s why you should work with a HR consultant who

asks the right questions,

thinks outside of the box,

and applies the legislation gap analysis that you'd never think or know to apply.

HR isn't just about documentation.

And leadership isn't just about motivation.

👀 If your HR doesn’t understand leadership psychology…

👀 If your leadership doesn’t understand the legal weight of their behaviours…

Then you’re sitting on a very expensive risk.

That’s why we built the Gender Equity Diagnostic (GED):

To uncover the unwritten bias inside your “people processes.”

To stop subtle discrimination before it triggers your tribunal payout.

You can say all the right things.

But if your systems contradict your words - your people will hear the truth.

So, have you ever stopped to ask what are your systems actually saying?

👋🏽 𝗛𝗶, 𝗜’𝗺 𝗧𝗶𝗻𝗮, 𝗳𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝗛𝗥 𝗛𝗮𝗯𝗶𝘁𝗮𝘁.
𝗪𝗲’𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗶𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝗳 𝗛𝗥 𝗵𝗼𝘁𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀, 𝘁𝗼𝗼.
𝗪𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝘅 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗛𝗥 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗲𝗳𝗶𝗲𝗹𝗱𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗶𝗱𝗻’𝘁 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗴𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗴.

𝗠𝘆 𝗺𝗶𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗱 𝗴𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝗲𝗾𝘂𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 - 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲.

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